
I still don’t get it.
I can’t figure it out.
I don’t know what the rules are.
And, I apologize to people I haven’t hugged. And those I’ve hugged in error.
I know I have pontificated on this issue before. It’s not easy saying “Hi” around here. It’s not just “Hi, eat oredi or not?” But instead, there’s all these unspoken rules of social behavior that I still cannot fathom after more than seven years here.
Here are the ones I understand (or may have incorrectly adopted).
Rule #1
All relatives get hugged. This includes in-laws, brothers-in-law, cousins, aunts, etc.
Addendum to Rule #1: The rules regarding older folk NOT the immediate in-laws are fuzzy. I have alternatively hugged, shaken hands, and not done anything in regard to aunts and uncles. The much older folk, that is, grandpa level and above, all do the “Kiss on the Cheek” method of greeting.
Rule #2
Friends don’t get hugs. Unless you haven’t seen them in a long time.
Addendum to Rule #2: I notice much hugging among friends who see each other a lot. But, because I often hesitate when approaching friends, the awkward moment passes and the hugging time frame is lost. Result: No hug.
Rule #3
All babies are hugged. Even those you don’t know. (Can’t be helped. Their lolling heads need your support.)
Rule #4
Never hug people you meet for the first time.
Rule #5
Relatives of friends, and friends of friends are tricky. You’ve seen them around. You’ve been introduced to them. They feel like they know you. And if they’re serial huggers, oh boy.
Rule #6
When Rules #1 to #5 do not apply, give a lame smile and position your body to either accept an incoming hug or intercept a handshake.
Let’s face it. I suck at hugging.
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